Navneet: 不要拿孩子的学习成绩和其他人做比较

Geeta Kashyap

Some regrets are a part of life. Nobody can escape that; wrong path, choice, despite best attempt things going bad, getting brickbats for no mistake of ours and so on. Is this the so called KARMA!?

Navneetji, psychologists deal with what you have written everyday, yet no long term solutions have been worked out. There is no single formula for critical decision making.Ultimately, it is a trial and error subject and as they say, success has many parents, while failure has none! I guess we have to make peace with whatever life has offered us and how we have utilised it.

I shared your article with my son who will be graduating this year, so that he could analyse and understand some of the nagging issues better. As a parent with some knowledge of psychology, I struggle to balance these issues on a day-to-day basis. On some days, it is a success and on some other days...

遗憾是生活的一部分。没有人可以逃脱；一旦做了错误的选择，尽管做了最好的尝试，事情反而变得糟糕了，这并不是我们的错误。这就是所谓的因果报应吗?

Navneetji，心理学家处理你每天写的东西，但是没有长期的解决方案。关键决策没有单一的公式。最终，这是一个尝试和错误的主题，正如他们所说，成功有很多父母，而失败却没有!我想，无论生活给我们什么，我们如何利用它，我们都必须与之和平共处。

我给儿子分享了你的文章，他今年就毕业了，这样他就可以更好地分析和理解一些恼人的问题。作为一个有心理学知识的家长，我很难在日常生活中平衡这些问题。在某些日子里，它是成功的，在其他的日子里……

Navneet

Thanks Geeta for your comment. Yes, Hindu Philosophy of Karma is very convincing, when it comes to seeking the answers for "Why things happen the way they do". True, the parents have big dreams for their children but all children can't get in IITs. When I was growing up, the awareness was less and the options were limited. I am happy that children of today are quite aware and well informed but even still there's a lot of parental pressure on them to perform far beyond their ability. Every time I read about a suicide by a child studying in Kota preparatory institutions, I feel saddened. But then in today's paper once again there is a news of all "Super 30" cracking IIT entrance exam. I have found a topic for another article. Let's see if I can complete it :)). Say, best of luck to your son from my side. You are a wise mother, I am sure you will be able to guide him on a path he decides to choose to tread upon.

感谢Geeta的评论。是的，当用来寻找“为什么事情会发生的方式”的答案时，印度的羯摩哲学很有说服力。诚然，父母对孩子们有着远大的梦想，但不是所有的孩子都能进入IITs。在我成长的过程中，我的自主意识越来越少，选择也很有限。我很高兴今天的孩子们都很有见识，也很有见地，但即使如此，父母对他们施加的压力也远远超出了他们的能力。每当我读到在Kota又有一个孩子自杀的消息时，我都很难过。但在今天的报纸上，又有一篇关于“超级30”的高考的新闻。我找到了另一篇文章的主题。让我们看看我是否能完成它:)。祝你孩子好运。你是一个睿智的母亲，我相信你将能够引导他走上一条他自主选择的道路。

Navneet

Hello Ushaji- These small encouragements are enough for me to pull on :). Success and failures are very relative terms and on the big canvas of life, it's the satisfaction from life that one can draw is what matters. I am pretty thankful for the good life that I have led. I am not sure if it had been better had I been given a chance to pursue ordinary B.A. but in those days only the boys who were not bright would pursue B.A. such was the prevalent misconception. One has to choose one's stream in 9th standard. It's too early for one to know about what he would like to be and parents have only one yardstick to measure your ability and lots of dreams for you. I will write stories about my life at sea. Have many plans to write a lot but as I said in the blog, I get little time to pursue my hobby.

你好ushaji -这些小的鼓励都足以让我开心。在人生的大画布上，成功与失败都是相对而言的，人生所能得到的满足感才是最重要的。我非常感恩我所拥有的美好生活。我不知道如果我当初考取其他学士学位，生活是否会变得更美好。但在那些日子里，只有不聪明的男生才会就读学士学位，这是根深蒂固的错误观念。一个人必须在第九个标准中选择自己的。一个人要知道他想成为什么样的人还为时过早，父母只有一个标准来衡量你的能力和梦想。以后会写一些海上的故事。有很多计划要写，但正如我在博客中说的那样，我几乎没有时间去追求我的爱好。

Ushasuryamani

Navneet

You are a very good writer...no doubt about this

As for being a very good Engineer, only you will know. But to test newly built ships is something great !

Thank God my parents brought me up without comparing me with others. But my wanting to do Botany Main and Marine Biology remained a dream as my father said, " I'll be marrying you off...so don't apply for science Subjects. I will become a wasteful study"..I did Fine Arts and I have no regrets today..accept what you are given and make the best of it is the best attitude

Thank God we have not forced our Children too They had all the freedom to choose their future!

Yes I have seen parents compelling their children pusue subjects that were their dreams ! What a tragedy..But Navneet, Obedience to Parents those days was a duty...not so now. Now, most of the parents are not that demanding!!

Times are changing though there are still a handful who want their kids to take up Engineering or Medicine!

by the way. been wanting to ask you for a long time..

Why don't you blog on some interesting - funny, serious, sad, angry ..incidents / experience on the Sea ? Look forward to reading them

毫无疑问，你是一个很优秀的作家……

是否是一个很好的工程师，只有你自己知道。但是测试新造的船是非常了不起的!

感谢上帝，我的父母没有拿我和别人比较。但是我想做植物学和海洋生物学仍然是一个梦想，因为我父亲说:“你将来是要嫁人的，所以不要申请理科。学了也浪费了。”我今天学的是美术，我不后悔。接受你所给予的，充分利用它是最好的态度。

感谢上帝，我们没有强迫我们的孩子，他们有选择未来的自由!

是的，我看到过父母强迫他们的孩子做他们的梦！！悲剧. .但是Navneet，以前，服从父母是一种责任…现在不是。现在，大多数家长都不是那么苛刻!!

时代在变，尽管仍有少数人希望他们的孩子从事工程或医学!

顺便说一下。我一直想问你一个问题。

你为什么不写一些有趣的、严肃的、悲伤的、愤怒的海上的事件/经验的博客呢？？期待阅读。

Suchisree/ Sree Kumar

Dear Navneeth,

Taking a newly built ship into the sea and proving its worthiness using all your knowledge and talent is a dream job.

Believe me, you are a success and your writings are of quality. This is an authorized verdict.

Regards,

Suchisree.

把一艘新造的船带进大海，用你所有的知识和才能证明它的价值是一份理想的工作。

相信我，你是成功的，你的作品很好。

祝好，

Suchisree

Navneet9 months ago

Hahaha Suchi Sree for many who haven't ever even ridden a boat, working on a ship is a life full of immense adventure and pleasure. I don't know how much of dream job it is but if I get up at night dreaming about being on the ship, I wake up in cold sweat Hahaha

哈哈哈Suchi Sree，对许多从未坐过船的人来说，在船上工作是一种充满冒险和快乐的生活。我不知道这是一份多么理想的工作，但是如果我梦见自己在船上，我就会冒冷汗惊醒。