I am from India. I met a guy for arranged marriage, his looks are not that good, but it seems like he has a nice character. What should I do?

我来自印度。我见了一个相亲的男子，他的长相一般般，但看起来性格很好。我该怎么做?

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Anonymous

Please, Wait for a good looking guy.

This poor guy deserves a better partner !

求你了，请等待一个好看点的男人。

这个可怜的家伙配得上更好的搭档!

Vijay Sharma, Marriage counseling.trained professional worker

You decide as you have to live with him .If not happy please do not marry.

你自己决定，因为你必须和他一起生活。如果不满意就别结婚。。

Tanya Paul

1.Spend alone time with him and spend group time with him.

2.See how he treats people who work for him or serve him .

3.See how he treats you in crowd or public versus at home

1、和他独处看看，也和他一起参加集体活动。

2、看看他如何对待为他工作或为他服务的人。

3、看看他在人群中、在公共场合或在家时，如何待你

Looks fade, personality stays. If a man treats you like a queen , he’s the right one.

容貌会褪色，而性格不会变。如果一个男人把你当作皇后，他就是对的人。

Ankit Meswani, worked at Wipro

Go for it. All the good looking things are not the best. So if he is good by heart then go for it

加油。并非所有好看的东西都是最好的。所以如果他心地善良，那就抓紧他。

Arun Ganwar, Software developer at Siemens (2010-present)

he thinks which fade with time should not be valued much. Over a period of time beauty will seems nothing to you. character will remain and will matter for rest of the life.

他认为随时间而褪色的东西不应该被重视。过一段时间，你就会觉得美丽的容颜不过尔尔。性格会一直存在，在以后的生活中性格很重要。

Asheesh Gupta, Indian

Falling for looks than character.

爱外表胜过爱性格。

Guys have been making this mistake since the begng of the time(including me), since when girls started walking the similar path?

男人从一开始就犯这个错误(包括我在内)，女孩什么时候也开始这样了?

Anup Kumar, Learning is in progress

Hmm, that depends on you what you want, coz looks will fade for you and him in next 10 years or so ... So just to get likes on social media go for someone with good looks nd not character then its ur call ... It might make ur rest of life miserable. Im nt saying good looking guys dnt have good character and neither vise versa. But good character does matter as you are gonna live ur life with him and share everything with him ... So it should be a wise choice and temporary satisfaction.

嗯，那取决于你想要什么，因为你和他的容貌在未来10年左右都会褪色……所以，如果你想在社交媒体上得到点赞，那就去找个长相不错、性格不太好的人吧，由你自己决定……它可能会让你的余生痛苦不堪。我不是说长得好看的男人性格都不好，反之亦然。但是好性格真的很重要，因为你要和他一起生活，和他分享一切……所以这应该是一个明智的选择和暂时的满足。

Another thing is that you, after few weeks you will start liking him, sooner or later we all like things which we hate it in the begng. So choose wisely

另一件事是，几周后你就会开始喜欢他，我们迟早都会喜欢一开始讨厌的东西。所以请做出明智的选择。

Suraj B. Solanki, Indian firstly and lastly

It is all upto u.there are no specific standards.Don't make it complicated.You are mature enough to predict outcome of ur decision based on look or Character .My suggestion is  that If you are taking looks as a measure of happy life then don't complaign about character to that guy.& if u r taking character as a measure of happy couple life then u should not argue about his looks.That is upto you what is best suitable for u.But main thing is don't argue after having a decision u have taken wisely.And for ur kind information i would like to tell u that IF u r from 'never satisfied' group than even combo of good looks and good charcater of a guy is not going to give u that satisfaction .so try to be realistic and take most suitable & open decision.

一切都取决于你。没有具体的标准。不要把事情复杂化。你已经足够成熟，可以根据外表或性格来预测你的决定会导致的结果。我的建议是，如果你把外表看作是幸福生活的一种衡量标准，那么就不要抱怨那个人的性格。如果你把性格作为衡量夫妻幸福生活的标准，那么你就不应该抱怨他的长相。哪种最适合你，由你自己决定。但最重要的是，在你做出明智的决定后，不要争论。另外，我想告诉你，如果你是“永不满足”的人，就算一名男子样貌好、性格好，你也一样不会满意，所以现实点吧，作出最合适、最坦率的决定。

Goutham Patiyat, studied at St. Joseph's College of Arts and Science

Apply Logic!!

用点脑子想一想! !

You might be spending rest of your life with him. Have you known him enough? Have you evaluated enough?

你可能会和他共度余生。你对他足够了解吗?你是否已作出充分的估量?

Anybody can pretend to be good for a few days or months. Why don't you spend more time with him to let those testing months pass. You would be able to decide better.

任何人都可以在几天或几个月内伪装得很好。你为什么不和他多处一段时间，度过那些考察期呢。这样你就可以做出更好的决定。

RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE BRIDGED QUICKLY, BUILDING THEM NEEDS TIME.

人际关系可以很快地连接起来，但建立关系需要时间。

Sharad Nirakara, Marriage problems solutions

If you get a guy of good character than better get married him even if he doesn't look smart because character is lost every thing is lost. If you get handsome but doesn't have good character than you life will be ruined. Life partner means one the person who holds hand during critical & odd conditions in sorrow. All people come forward only at joy time but real person will come & hold hands during sorrow time.

如果你找到了一个性格好的男人，即使他看起来不太聪明，你也要嫁给他，因为如果性格不好，一切都没意义。如果你找一个长得帅但性格不好的男人，你的生活就会毁了。生活伴侣指的是在危难时刻，在悲伤中依然能携手相伴的人。所有的人都在快乐时涌现，但真命天子会在悲伤的时候现身，握紧你的双手。

Mathi Surendran, former Has a blog which deals with marriage problems

If you have any doubts about your feelings about him, do not marry him. Are you too concentrated on looks? You will make him unhappy when you make comments about his appearance.

如果你对他的感情有任何怀疑，就不要嫁给他。你是不是太注重外表了?当你评论他的外表时，你会让他不高兴的。

How do you know he is a good person without really knowing him? Even in love marriages, couples are shocked to see the negative angle of their spouse which they never thought exsted. So think twice before saying yes.

你如果不了解他，怎么知道他是个好人呢?即使是在自由恋爱婚姻中，夫妻们看到他们从未预料到的配偶不好的一面，也会感到震惊。所以在答应之前要三思。

Phillip Michael Mpalabule, I don't usually give marriage advice but when I do, nothing compares

There are two types of crushes and both of them are associated with how you see the other person.

有两种类型的迷恋，都与你如何看待对方有关

The first one happens at first sight.

第一种是一见钟情。

You see someone for the first time and you feel an attraction. This mostly happens to men.

当你第一次见到某人时，你会感觉到对方的吸引力。这通常发生在男性身上。

The second one happens slowly.

第二种发生得很慢。

For whatever reason, this person has your attention; in your case,  arranged spouse. At first, you don't find that person attractive but as days go by you begin to see the beauty in them. You begin to love everything about them. NOW THIS IS LOVE!

无论出于什么原因，这个人吸引了你的注意力；你这种情况，是父母安排的配偶。一开始，你并不觉得那个人有吸引力，但随着时间的推移，你开始发现他们身上的美丽。你开始爱上他们的一切。现在，这就是爱!

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Anonymous

I have had quite a few proposals from girls just for my looks.

因为我的外表，我收到过不少女孩的求婚。

In fact I absolutely hate it. It is second only to my complaint that girls look for money.

事实上我很讨厌这样。就我个人不满中，这排在第二位，第一位就是女孩子找对象只看钱。

Whatever happened to character !!?

性格呢!!?

It is true that we guys also care about physical beauty of a girl. I have been wishing for a girl who is very pretty as well as one who has a good character. I have failed to find one like this. The pretty girls seem to be looking for money. I fear that girls still send interest only because of my looks. It is an absolute mess we have got ourselves into. Every relationship arranged or love marriage seems to be based on first impressions which is basically physical features.

的确，我们男人也关心女孩子的外表美不美。我一直都希望找一个既漂亮性格又好的女孩。我还没能找到这样的女孩。那些漂亮的女孩似乎都只在乎钱。我担心女孩们还会因为我的长相而对我感兴趣。这是我们让自己陷入的绝对混乱。每一段包办婚姻或自由恋爱婚姻似乎都是以第一印象为基础的，而第一印象基本上就是外在特征。

Mahjabeen Fazel, Married to Mister Right-for-me for 2 years and going strong

Marry a guy who you would be proud to call the father of your children. Marriage is not like dating, where you can just ext if things go wrong. That's why the choice of a spouse is one of the most important choices of your life.

你要嫁给一个你会自豪地称他为你孩子的父亲的人。婚姻不像约会，如果出了问题你可以转身离开。这就是为什么选择配偶是你生命中最重要的选择之一。

Looks may fade, money may vanish but a good character will always remain.

外貌可能会褪色，金钱可能会消失，但好的性格会永远存在。

You may look at him everyday, but you are not going to live with his looks - you are going to live with him [as a person]. If he has a good  character, is logical and reasonable; all of this is way more important than extra-handsome looks, status and money.

你可能每天都看着他，但你不会和他的长相生活在一起——你会和他(作为一个人)生活在一起。如果他有良好的性格，这是合乎逻辑的和合理的；所有这些都比英俊的外表、地位和金钱来得更重要。

Ayesha Begum

Let me tell you a real incident that happened to my cousin. They were looking for possible brides for him and one of them matched him perfectly.She was very beautiful and the family matched with my uncle's perfectly.

让我告诉你一个发生在我表弟身上的真实事件。他们正在为他寻找可能的新娘，其中一个和他很般配。她很漂亮，她家和我叔叔家的门当户对。

They had all the talks and then had an engagement.

他们进行了所有的讨论，然后订婚了。

2 weeks after the engagement,she eloped with another boy. This caused immense embarrassment for my uncle,but my cousin got affected very badly as he started to love her a lot. He started getting negative thoughts like he felt that he was such a loser that a girl who previously told her parents that she broke up with her boyfriend decided to elope than marrying him.

订婚两周后，她和另一个男孩私奔了。这对我叔叔造成巨大的尴尬,但我表哥受到非常严重的影响，因为他深深爱着她。他开始有了消极的想法，觉得自己是一个失败者，这个女孩之前曾告诉她的父母她和她的男朋友分手了，但女孩决定私奔，而不是嫁给他。

He refused marriage and didn't see any girls for the next years even though he went into the 30s. His parents were in a fix as they cannot force another girl. Finally,one of my other uncles who has a brash nature had a long talk with him and then showed another girl's profile.

他拒绝结婚，尽管他已经30岁了，但在接下来的几年里，他不见任何女孩。他的父母陷入困境，因为他们不能强迫另一个女孩。最后，我另一个脾气暴躁的叔叔和他进行了长谈，然后给他看了另一个女孩的资料。

She wasn't that beautiful,just average looks and my cousin married just to make his parents happy.

她没有那么漂亮，只是相貌平平，我表弟结婚只是为了让他的父母开心。

This happened 5 years ago,now they have 2 kids.His wife is a very active personality.She can make friends with a lamppost.She brings lot of joy wherever she goes. My cousin loves her so much.His life has never been happier.

这发生在5年前，现在他们有两个孩子。他的妻子个性非常活跃。不夸张的说，她能和灯柱交朋友。她无论走到哪里都能带来许多欢乐。我表弟很爱她。他的生活从未如此幸福过。

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Poonam Thakur, Lived in 3 countries, traveled to 12

If you can go past looks ( they are not deal breakers for you), then take some time to get to know this guy little more. Hopefully he is a mature guy but there are guys ( or even girls) who get into inferiority complex. They are always insecure about beauty of other person and as a result are not able to develop a trusting relationship.

如果你能不看外貌(他们对你来说不是什么绝对无法忍受的)，那花点时间多了解一下这个人吧。希望他是一个成熟的男人，但也有一些男人(甚至女孩)会陷入自卑情结。他们总是对他人的美缺乏安全感，因此无法建立信任关系。

Please do see carefully if he feels insecure or jealous of your beauty or the attention/confidence  you get as a result. If that happens he may try to get you to dress in more conservative/ugly/non attention seeking clothing, pressurise you to cut down your social circle, prevent you from going to gatherings. Also notice, if he starts to buy more expensive dresses, using cosmetics, caring too much for his looks suddenly.

请仔细观察他是否对你的美貌感到不安或嫉妒，或者你是否由此得到的关注/自信。如果出现这种情况，他可能会试图让你穿得更保守/丑陋/不引人注意的衣服，给你施加压力，让你减少社交圈子，阻止你参加聚会。另外要注意的是，他是否突然开始购买更昂贵的衣服，使用化妆品，过于在意自己的外表。

Most important aspect is that he is comfortable in his skin, likes you for your character and see you as a person with personality. It takes a very mature guy to be able to do that and this ability is not as common as you would want it to be.

最重要的一点是，他喜欢你的外表，喜欢你的性格，并且把你看成一个有个性的人。要做到这一点，需要一个非常成熟的人，而这种能力并不像你希望的那样普遍。

P.S. - I am saying all this from my personal experience ( just that it was in case of a relationship not an arranged marriage scenario).  

附注：我说这些都是基于我个人的经验(只是恋爱关系而不是包办婚姻)。

Anonymous

Hi there.

嗨。

This is my story. I do not recommend that you do what I did but I would like to share my story.

这是我的故事。我不建议你重复我做过的事，但我想分享我的故事。

I married a guy who I thought at first was not good looking at all.

我嫁给了一个男人，一开始我觉得他长得一点都不好看。

Why did I marry him then?

那我为什么要嫁给他?

My dad was really ill in 2009, he kept pestering me to get married. I was 23 then. I would not listen. I wanted to establish a good career, enjoy life and then settle down. He went through a very depressing state during his sickness, so I put him up for psychiatric evaluation. After the session was over the psychiatrist played the recordings from one of the therapy sessions. He literally cried telling he is worried that he would not make it and that he wanted to finish his duty as a father by getting me married. That's the only reason for him living in denial and his depression. I was deeply moved. I made up my mind that after he got discharged from the hospital I will get the photos and create a shaadi.com profile. Sad news. He didn't make it.

我爸爸2009年病得很重，他一直缠着让我结婚。那我23岁。我不会听他的。我想建立一个好的事业，享受生活，然后再安定下来。他在生病期间经历了非常沮丧的状态，所以我把他送去做精神检查。在疗程结束后，精神科医生播放了其中一个疗程的录音。他真的哭了，告诉我他担心自己好不了了，他想帮我完婚来完成他作为父亲的职责。这是他生活在否定和抑郁之中的唯一原因。我被深深地触动了。我下定决心，等他出院后，我就会拍照片在shaadi.com上等级个人资料。不幸的消息。他没有康复。

I cried day and night thinking I could have handled things differently.

我日日夜夜地哭着，想着我本可以让一切都不同的。

So I made up mind to marry the fist guy who my mother saw for me.

所以我决定嫁给我妈妈为我物色的第一个男人。

So here comes the guy. Short and sort of bad looking with a lot of pimples.

这个人来了。又矮又难看，脸上有很多痘痘。

He was very well settled and earned good money and lovely family and everything. I didn't even look at him when he came to see me at first, at parents' insistence we spent some time alone that's when I noticed he was not very good looking. But I said yes.

他的生活很安定，赚了很多钱，有一个可爱的家庭和一切。刚开始他来见我的时候，我甚至看都没有看他一眼，在父母的坚持下，我们单独呆了一段时间，我才发现他长得不太好看。但是我还是答应了。

My family were not with my decision, they asked me to reconsider but I didn't. The only thing they told me was that if I decided, then I had to stick with it and live with it no matter what. It would not be fair to guy if I went ahead with the preparations and on the day of wedding I said 'NO' when the priest asks me 'Do you take this man to be your husband?'.

我的家人不同意我的决定，他们要求我重新考虑，但我没有。他们告诉我的唯一一件事是，如果我决定了，我就必须坚持下去，无论如何都要坚持下去。如果我继续筹备婚礼，但在婚礼当天牧师问我“你愿意把这个人当作你的丈夫吗?”时回答“不”，这对男人非常不公平。

I was still determined I went ahead with it. I got married to him.

我仍然下定决心要去做这件事。我和他结婚了。

Wow! He is a wonderful person and he brings out the best in me. He is a nerd, he is smart, he plays the guitar, he is uptodate on current affairs. He challenges me in every way. We argue a lot. He cares for me he loves me. I love him very much. We connect at every level. And believe me, I really don't see any flaw in him now. He looks super smart to me now. If some girl looks at him I feel jealous. He looks cute in his own way and only I can see it. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me.

哇!他是一个很好的人，他让我展现出自己最好的一面。他是一个书呆子，他很聪明，他弹吉他，他对时事很了解。他以各种方式挑战我。我们经常对很多事情进行争论，他关心我，爱我。我非常爱他。我们在每一个层面上都深深契合。相信我，我现在真的看不出他有什么缺点。我现在觉得他非常聪明。如果有女孩看他，我会嫉妒。他以自己的方式让他自己看起来很可爱，只有我能看到。他是发生在我身上最好的事情。

Having said that, here are the things that I had to go through because I married him.

话虽如此，以下是我因为嫁给他而不得不经历的事情。

1. Anywhere I go people point out to me that I'm way more good-looking than him in a totally offensive way. I don't care. I don't let it affect me or my husband.

     1、无论我走到哪里，人们都对我说，我比他好看得多，这完全是一种冒犯。我也不在乎我不会让它影响我和我的丈夫。

2. People are judgemental. These are the judgey comments I have heard over the time, 'she married him for the money, and he always listens to her because she is pretty' about me they say 'she is with him only for the money'. Both of us don't care. We both are strong and mature enough to handle such situations.

      2、人们会评判别人。这些评头论足的话都是我听到过的，“她嫁给他是为了钱，他总是听她的，因为她很漂亮。”“她和他在一起只是为了钱。”我们俩都不在乎。我们都很坚强，也足够成熟来处理这样的情况。

3. My own friends ask me how I can look at his face every damn day. But only I know that I don't want a day to go bY without looking at him. To me there is no other better looking man.

     3、我自己的朋友问我怎么能做到每天看着他的脸。但只有我知道，我不想一天看不到他。对我来说，再没有比他更帅的男人了。

Go for it only if you are strong enough to be OK with your decision.

只有当你足够强大到可以接受你的决定时，你才去做。

You should be ready to accept him for the way he is. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

你应该准备好接受他本来的样子。情人眼里出西施。

I feel like I'm the luckiest person alive.

我觉得自己是世上最幸运的人。

All the best.

愿一切都好！

Edit: Response to people who think this is Bizarre (I have already mentioned that I do not recommend this to anyone. This is just my story and I am sharing it.)

编辑：回应那些认为这很奇怪的人(我已经提到过，我不建议任何人这么做。这只是我的故事，我只是分享一下。）

It is a big risk to marry someone without knowing anything about him.

嫁给一个一无所知的人是一个很大的风险。

Also i don't recommend anyone to marry for any other reason than love.

此外，我不建议任何人因为爱情之外的原因而结婚。

The point of my story is not that beauty and looks are superficial things and what ahould matter is the person within. No not at all.

我的故事并不是说美丽和外表是肤浅的东西，重要的是内在。我不是这个意思。

My point is that when you love someone enough, all the flaws will disappear and look perfect.

我的观点是，当你足够爱一个人，所有的缺点都会消失，让他看起来很完美。

The things that mattered the most back then are the cutest things about him now. His slight pout, his bunny teeth, I have actually grown fond of them now. And those are the first things that come to my mind when I close my eyes now.

那时候最在意的反而是他现在最可爱的一面。他的微撅嘴，他的兔牙，我现在真的很喜欢它们了。这些是我现在闭上眼睛首先想到的事情。

I used to think at first that I settled for him, that I compromised with his looks for his personality. It is not true at all. I have found my match and he is a dashing young man. Super cute. You just have to look at him through my eyes.

我一开始曾以为，我勉强接受了他，我对他的外表妥协了。这根本不是真的。我找到了相称的人，他是个精力充沛的年轻人。超级可爱。你只要用我的眼睛看着他就行了。

So I wanted to tell the OP that, my husband never changed his looks but the way I look at him has changed and that could happen with the OP too.

所以我想对贴主说，我丈夫从未改变过他的长相，但我对他的看法已经改变了，贴主也可能会改变。

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Vijay Mundle, Enjoying successful arranged married life since 2007

I would like to share one real life experience of one of my female friend from Pune in Maharashtra .

我想和大家分享我一个来自马哈拉施特拉邦浦那的女性朋友的真实生活经历。

This girl was good looking and highly educated and working as architect in one private firm in Pune . Her family got proposal from one Diploma Civil Engineer guy who was having dark complexon and not looking good at all . My friend didn't like this proposal at all . For the sake of family , she decided to have a introductory program . The guy liked this girl and immediately he proposed her family to get wedlock . 

这个女孩长得很漂亮，受过高等教育，在浦那的一家私人公司当建筑师。她的家人被一个毕业于土木工程师的家伙提亲了，他肤色黝黑，看起来一点也不好看。我的朋友根本不喜欢这个提亲。为了家庭的缘故，她决定见见面。男孩很喜欢这个女孩，他马上向她的家人求婚。

My friend was completely in dilemma as she was not at all interested in that guy. Her family forced her to accept this proposal despite her denial . She called me and we had hour long discussion on this topic . she looked very disappointed and frustrated by decision of her family . Any how she decided to go ahead with decision as there was no other way left . She was the only daughter of her parent having no brother and sister .

我的朋友完全进退两难，因为她对那个人一点都不感兴趣。她的家人不顾她的反对，强迫她接受这门亲事。她打电话给我，我们就这个话题讨论了一个小时。她对家人的决定感到非常失望和沮丧。无论她如何决定继续下去，因为已经没有别的办法了。她是她父母的独生女，没有兄弟姐妹。

Initially she was reluctant to talk with this guy. Guy was trying to having a matured and nice talk with her . He was very matured guy having high level of understanding of feelings of the persons . She bluntly told him that it will take time for me to love you as i am not getting any romantic feeling for you as i don't like you at all . This guy was having a great deal of patience and understanding . He continued his well mannered behavior with her  despite her annoying and irritating behavior.

一开始她不愿意和这个男人说话。这个男人很努力地与她进行了一次成熟而愉快的谈话。他是一个非常成熟的人，对人的感觉有很高的理解力。她直截了当地告诉他，我需要时间来爱你，因为我对你没有任何浪漫的感觉，我根本不喜欢你。这家伙有很大的耐心和理解力。尽管她的行为令人讨厌、让人生气，他还是继续保持彬彬有礼的举止。

A day of engagement came , with heart full of sorrow , she got engaged with him . She posted her engagement photos on Facebook but not in single photo that guy was not there . She was feeling embarrassed and " what  peoples will comment " prevented her from posting his photo . Many her facebook friend raise curiosity to know her better half but she kept mum .

订婚的那天终于到来了，她怀着悲痛欲绝的心情和他订婚了。她在Facebook上发布了订婚照，但没有任何一张照片上有他。她感到很尴尬，她想着“人们会怎么评论”，不想发布他的照片。她在Facebook上的许多朋友都好奇地想了解她的另一半，但她一直保持沉默。

Their conversation was very limited post engagement as she was not responding him properly with lame excuses . The guy even not got irritated and shown any frustration. He continued with his mature and nice behaviors by taking care of her feeling .

他们的谈话在订婚后非常有限，因为她没有恰当地用蹩脚的借口回应他。他甚至没有生气，也没有表现出任何沮丧。他继续着他成熟和善良的行为，照顾她的感受。

Slowly her heart started melting now with his nice behavior and matured talk . But still she was not happy with his looks and dark complexon .

慢慢地，她的心开始融化，因为他的友好举动和成熟的谈话。但她还是不满意他的长相和黝黑的肤色。

They got married and again she posted her wedding photographs without his photo . Same questions by her friend and she kept mum .

他们结了婚，她又一次把自己的单人结婚照贴在网上，没有他的照片。她的朋友又提出了同样的问题，她还是保持沉默。

Now she came his home with sorrow and painful heart . Now actually she was in his real contact and she observed this guy closely . She started loving him and even respecting him like anything .

她怀着悲伤和痛苦的心情跟他回了家。实际上，现在她和他有了真正的接触，她仔细观察了这个人。她开始爱他，甚至尊敬他。

After 2 years now , she is most happiest wife and proud to have a husband like him who is well mannered , caring and matured .

两年过去了，她变成了最幸福的妻子，能有这样一个有礼貌、有爱心、成熟的丈夫，她感到很自豪。

Moral : Beauty is not eternal but nice behavior last long.

寓意：美丽不是永恒的，良好的举止才能持久。

Hopefully this real life story will help to take your decision .

希望这个真实的故事能帮助你做出决定。

Wishing you best of luck 

祝你好运