作为印度女人，你们想给印度男人一个什么样的忠告

As an Indian girl or woman, what would be the one piece of advice you'd want to give to an Indian boy/man?

作为印度女孩/女性，你们想给印度男孩/男性一个什么样的忠告呢？

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Aarvee Yalla

Respect! Respect! Respect! - Whether she is your mom, wife, gf, friend or sister.

When you get married, please realize, you become a husband to a wife, not a boss to an employee. Plan to lead the life together. You are in a marital relation, not in military.

Don't expect her to "obey your orders". Always ask for her opinions and give importance to them. Include your wife in all decision making moments.

No amount of love / gifts can match that!

Also, if your mom and partner are different from each other, be happy to have known two individuals in life!

Lastly - Never Ever Make Fake Promises that you don't intend to keep. Applies to all relationships!

尊重!尊重!尊重!无论她是你的妈妈、妻子、女朋友、朋友还是姐妹。

当你结婚时，请意识到，你成了你妻子的丈夫，而不是你手下员工的老板。你们计划共度余生。你是结婚了，而不是在军队中。

不要指望她“服从你的命令”。要经常征求她的意见，并重视这些意见。让你的妻子参与所有的决策过程。

那是再多的爱/礼物也比不上的!

另外，如果你的母亲和伴侣彼此不一样，那么你应该很高兴认识了生活中的两个人!

最后，永远不要做出你不想遵守的虚假承诺。这一点适用于所有关系!

译文来源：三泰虎 http://www.santaihu.com/46229.html 译者：Joyceliu

Katrine Diana, I write things; professionally, for fun, and on Quora.

1.Be clear about what you want from her and the relationship.

2.Communicate and be open to discuss and compromise on things.

3.Don't feel inferior because you’re Indian. (So many Indian guys felt they weren't good enough for me because of that).

4.Treat her kindly and with respect - the same way you want your sister’s boyfriend to treat her.

5.Be honest, loyal and kind.

6.Realize that the girl you are dating (if NRI), grew up in a western country. Her customs may differ from yours. Of course both of you should be able to adjust, but this is not an one-way street.

In general, there isn’t something particulary good or bad about being Indian. No - it doesn't make you inferior to my white American/European exes. Also, I feel that many Indian men should believe in themselves more. The reason why many won't get a date, isn’t because they are inferior, but because they don’t initiate anything. No pain, no gain

1。想清楚你希望从她那里、从你们的关系中得到什么。

2。沟通，开诚布公地讨论，学会妥协。

3。不要因为你是印度人而自卑。(所以很多印度人觉得自己配不上我)。

4。善待她，尊重她——就像你希望你姐姐的男朋友善待她一样。

5。诚实、忠诚、善良。

6。要知道你约会的女孩(如果是海外侨胞)是在西方国家长大的。她的生活习惯可能和你不同。当然你们两个都应该能够适应，但这不是单行道。

一般来说，印度人并没有什么特别好的或坏的地方。不，这并不会让你比我的美国/欧洲白人前任更差。而且，我觉得很多印度男人应该更自信一些。很多人没有约会的原因，不是因为他们低人一等，而是因为他们不够主动。没有付出就没有收获。

Sahana Nagaraja

Be a good human being. Respect others.
A no means a no. Do not touch a woman without her permission.
Do not decide a woman's character by looking at her outfit. If she's wearing a short skirt, it doesn't mean that she's inviting you for a sexual relationship.
Always stand up to your life partner. Support her, no matter what.
It's the simple things in life which can make your love happy.
Love her unconditionally.
做个好人。尊重别人。
不就是不。未经允许，不要触碰女人。
不要通过一个女人的着装判断她的性格。如果她穿的是短裙，也并不意味着她邀请你和她发生性关系。
要始终支持你的另一半。不管什么情况都支持她。
生活中简简单单的事可以使你的爱情幸福。
无条件地爱她。
Don't judge her if she has male friends.
Cooking, cleaning utensils, washing clothes is not only her responsibility. It's yours too. Lend her a hand. She will feel happy.
Ask her opinions before taking any decision. Respect them.
Don't let go of your career or dreams just to chase a girl. You have a life. Don't expect her to do the same. She has a life too.
Don't let her use you as an ATM. Split your bills at restaurants. Don't be her servant.
She loves her family and can't let go of them, just because she married you. Respect her family and she will do the same.
Don't be scared of commitments. If you want to be with her, then commit yourself to it.
不判断她是否有男性朋友。
烹饪、洗碗、洗衣服不仅是她的责任。这也是你的责任。帮她一把。她会感到快乐。
在做任何决定之前问问她的意见。尊重她们。
不要为了追女生放弃你的事业和梦想。你有自己的生活。别指望她也这么做。她也有自己的生活。
别让她把你当做自动取款机。在餐厅分摊账单。不要做她的仆人。
她爱她的家人，不可能只是因为嫁给你而不管她的家人。尊重她的家庭，她也会这样做。
不要害怕承诺。如果你想和她在一起，那就全身心投入。
It's okay to express your emotions. If you want to cry, go ahead. No one has the right to judge you.
Do not treat her like a doll. She's a human being too, remember that.
It's okay to admire and compliment a girl, but it's totally not okay to pass obscene comments.
Please don't ogle at her body. It really makes her feel uncomfortable.
If a girl talks to you comfortably, it doesn't mean that she loves you. It means that she values you as her friend.
Not every girl out there is a gold digger. Don't generalize.
Celebrate her achievements too.
If a girl rejects your proposal, just let her go. Don't nag about it and tag her as the bad lady. It's her choice. Respect that.
可以表达你的情感。如果你想哭，尽管哭吧。没有人有权评判你。
不要把她看成洋娃娃。她也是人，记住这一点。
可以欣赏和赞美一个女孩，但绝对不可以对她说下流的话。
请不要色眯眯地盯着她的身体。这真的让她感到不舒服。
如果一个女孩跟你谈得来，并不意味着她爱你。这意味着她把你当成朋友。
不是每个女孩都是拜金女。不要有这种想法。
还要祝贺她取得的成就。
如果一个女孩拒绝了你的示爱，就放过她吧。不要絮絮叨叨，把她说成坏女人。这是她的选择。尊重这一点。

Nikita Deshpande, Intern at JPMorgan Chase in India

(Innermind thoughts ..haha)

内心的想法，哈哈

1.You dont need to pay every single time we eat at a restaurant!I know you are being ‘gentleman’ but still not needed.

2.Fine line between being my good friend and my boyfriend,please you guys try to understand that fine difference.

3.Walking on the road or in a crowded place dont try to act to protect me,you arent around me 24*7

4.Travelling in a sharing auto rickshaw,you might want to take your legs a little close so that girl can atleast sit on the seat.

5.Stop staring at girls and women even when they are totally covered in clothes,what do you have x-ray eyes??

1。你不需要每次在餐厅吃饭都抢着付钱!我知道你是个“绅士”，但还是没必要这么做。

2。当我的好朋友和男朋友之间有细微的差别，请你们试着去理解。

3.走在路上或拥挤的地方不要试图去保护我，你无法无时不刻呆在我身边

4。乘坐三轮车旅行时，你可以把腿并拢一点，这样女孩至少可以坐在座位上。

5。不要再盯着女孩和女人看了，她们全身上下包裹得严严实实地，难不成你有透视眼么?

6.Before you fall for any girl,trust me inspect her well.

7.Not all girls are the same,every girl is different from the other.

8.Girl ignores you,get a clue from that,stop texting her.

9.We do mean exactly what we say.

10.Lastly a reply K,OK,WOW,OH,NICE…Run for your life

6。在你爱上任何女孩之前，相信我，好好了解一下她。

7。不是所有的女孩都一样，每个女孩都不一样。

8。女孩不理睬你的时候，就得心领神会，别再给她发短信了。

9。我们说到做到。

10。最后一个回答，好，哇，哦，不错…追逐你的人生吧

Vinita Punjabi, studied at Government College, Ajmer

Some more brainstorming :

1.If a girl messages or calls you, it doesn’t mean she is digging into your pants. She is just conversing with a clear heart and a clean brain.

2.Don’t go mad over pretty faces. It’s true that beauty attracts but a book with a swanky cover doesn’t approve it to be a good read. Look beyond that chubby face and geeky eyes, you will find magic.

3.Hanging out with guys doesn’t make her an attention seeker. She doesn’t categorise friendship based on gender.

4.Don’t cringe if she shouts at your stupid act of throwing the wet towel on bed. Just like you, she too gets tired with her household chores. She too feels annoyed when her food doesn’t get appreciated. Absence of monthly currency in her account doesn’t make her worthless. She too works for your betterment. Help her in her chores. It will make her life quite easy. Respect her.

5.Don’t feel shy in shedding down those trinkets of tears in front of us. Crying won’t make you a less of a man. Share your insecurities, your fears with an open heart and we will handle them with utmost care..

6.Girls can be good drivers. Period. Don’t judge.

再来电头脑风暴吧:

1。如果一个女孩给你发信息或打电话，她并没有其他想法。她只是心平气和地聊天而已。

2。不要为漂亮的脸蛋抓痴狂。的确，美丽吸引人，但一本封面华丽的书却不一定是本好书。透过那张胖嘟嘟的脸和古怪的眼睛，你也许会发现魔力。

3.和男人在一起并不会让她成为关注的焦点。她不以性别来划分友谊。

4。如果她对你把湿毛巾扔在床上的愚蠢行为大吼大叫，不要害怕。就像你一样，她也厌倦了家务琐事。当她的厨艺得不到赏识时，她也会感到烦恼。她账户上没有每月进账，但这并不意味着她一文不值。她也为你的进步而付出了心血。帮她做做家务。这会让她的生活轻松一点。尊重她。

5。不要因为在我们面前流泪而感到害羞。哭并不会让你变得不像个男人。以开放的心态分享你的不安和恐惧，我们将会非常小心地处理它们。

6。女孩可以成为好的司机。说完了。不许置评。

Anonymous

A girl and a boy CAN be just friends.
When a girl talks nicely to you and have long meaningful conversations, it means she is interested in hearing what you have to say. It does not necessarily imply that she is in love with you, so stop assuming!
If you ask a girl out and she refuses, leave it there. No means no, stop waiting for it to turn into a 'Yes'. If you can stay just friends, it may be good for you. Don't tag the girl a 'Bitch' when she finds someone else.
If your personal conversations ( proposals etc.) are being broadcasted by the girl to everyone you know, stop believing that she likes you because she smiled last time your eyes met! She is not worth it! Have some self-respect and snap out of your fantasy-land.
男女之间可以有纯粹的友谊。
女孩跟你聊得很好，聊了很久很有意思的话，这意味着她感兴趣的是听听你会说什么。这并不一定意味着她爱上了你，所以不要再会错意了!
如果你邀请一个女孩出来，她拒绝了，那就这样算了吧。“不”就是“不”，不要再等着把它变成“是”了。如果你能保持朋友关系，这可能对你有好处。当女孩找到意中人的时候，不要给她乱贴“婊子”的标签。
如果你私下的对话(示爱等等)被女孩散播给所有你认识的人，不要因为上次你们四目相视时她冲你笑了而相信她喜欢你!她配不上你的爱!拿出自尊，放弃你的幻想世界。
Be real. That cool dude act and financial show-off in college won't attract the right girl!
If she is a topper in class, it doesn't mean that she learns every thing by heart. If she doesn't score good, it doesn't mean that she is dumb.
Respect girls. Like them or not, equal or not, they deserve it. You don't like one of them, don't generalize for all girls.
When you stare at breasts while talking, she does notice. If you wonder why she doesn't talk to you anymore, maybe it will be better to reflect on your actions rather than playing the blame-game.
要真实。那个在大学里扮酷、炫耀财力的男孩并不会吸引真命天女!
如果她学业优异，并不意味着她用心学习每件事。如果她分数不好，也并不意味着她很笨。
尊重女孩。不管你是否喜欢她们，是否平等，她们都值得尊重。就算你不喜欢其中的某个女孩，也不要对所有的女孩一概而论。
当你说话时盯着她们的胸部，她会注意到的。如果你想知道为什么她不再和你说话了，也许反思一下你的行为，而不是玩指责游戏会更好。

Aditi Upadhye, Wore uniform in junior college too.

Don't confuse misandry with feminism guys.

Feminists want equality for you too.

Many guys are feminists and that doesn't make their masculinity any less.

We know a lot of pseudo-feminism too exsts.

But we can't do much about it.

Stop lashing out on all women because you face discrimination.

We face it a lot more than you and can empathise.

Don't expect anything from your girlfriend what you wouldn't want your sister to be asked for by her partner.

伙计们，不要把厌男症和女权主义搞混了。

女权主义者也希望你们平等。

许多男人是女权主义者，这并没有减少他们的男子气概。

我们知道还有很多伪女权主义者。

但我们对此无能为力。

不要再抨击所有的女性，因为你面临着歧视。

我们比你更能面对它，也更能感同身受。

不要期望你的女朋友给你任何你不希望你妹妹会被她的伴侣索要的东西。

Stop trying to act brave all the time.

Giving women a better chance to connect isn't a bad option.

It will make you feel better too.

PLEASE don't make comments like 'girls can't drive' or 'that was bound to happen because there was a female involved '.

The same scenarios may take place in your situation too.

If someone rejects you, don't let it hurt your ego.

You might get someone you truly deserve.

If you and your wife work equal hours, divide chores equally.

The society images of both sexes have changed drastically and only the lady can't be expected to do all of it.

Don't ask your wife to sacrifice what you can't for her.

She has the right to support her parents too.

You got to care for them if you expect her to care for yours.

Don't say the hot chicks dump people heartlessly.

Well, you never looked for anything but good looks, did you?

Stop thinking of all males and females as separate parties.

Love and get loved in return.

不要总是试图表现得勇敢。

给女性一个更好的沟通机会不是一个坏的选择。

它也会让你感觉更好。

请不要说“女生不会开车”或“那肯定会发生，因为里面有女生”之类的话。

如果有人拒绝了你，不要觉得伤了自尊。

你可能会因此得到一个你真正值得拥有的人。

如果你和你的妻子工作时间相同，那么请平均分配家务。

男性和女性的社会形象都发生了巨大的变化，只有女性才能做到这一切。

不要让你的妻子为她牺牲你不愿牺牲的东西。

她也有赡养父母的权利。

如果你希望她关心你的父母，你就得关心他们。

不要说辣妹甩人时无情无义。

好吧，你找女友只看美不美，是吗?

不要把所有的男性和女性都当成独立的人群。

爱别人，才会得到别人的爱。

Priyanka Chatterjee, Making an effort to show the real beautiful color of India

My advice is based on my interaction with my male colleagues and friends:

* I know that when you stare at a girl or pass a comment about her looks and body, you are doing it as an appreciation of her beauty. But, please understand that if there is a girl alongside you and finds you in the act she feels disappointed, not because you are finding someone else attractive but because being a woman it is not very pleasant to listen to such comments about another woman, comments which I will never want to receive. Your intentions might not be wrong but it does create a bad impression when your eyes and words reflect lust.

* Please don't use abusive language in front of girls just to act cool. Girls dig for gentlemen and no gentleman will speak such language

*If a girl is being rude or offensive be strong and confront her. That will not make you any less of a gentleman. There is always a thin line between being polite and weak.

* Its OK to ask for directions.

* Its OK to open up and show your emotional side. We won't judge you

* Raunchy pick up lines doesn't work.Yes Bollywood movie stars portrayed it wrong. It will not fetch you a girlfriend. All you will get is weird looks.

*我的建议是基于我与男性同事和朋友的互动:

*我知道，当你盯着一个女孩看，或者对她的外貌和身材评头论足时，你是在欣赏她的美貌。但是,请理解,如果有一个女孩在你身边,发现你的行为令她感到失望,不是因为你觉得别人有吸引力,而是因为作为一个女人，都不喜欢听到男人对另一个女人这样评头论足。你的意图可能没有错，但当你的眼睛和言语都透出欲望时，它确实会给你留下不好的印象。

*请不要为了表现得很酷，在女孩面前使用侮辱性语言。女孩子都爱追求绅士，绅士是不会说这种语言的

*如果一个女孩很粗鲁或无礼，要坚强面对她。那不会让你失去绅士风度。礼貌和软弱之间只有一步之遥。

*问路没问题。

*敞开心扉，展示你情感上的一面是可以的。我们不会因此对你有看法

*粗俗的搭讪没有用。是的，宝莱坞电影明星都是错误示范。它不会为你带来女朋友。你只能看到奇怪的表情。

Pooja Jain

That a real woman won't make you choose between her and your mom. There is no competition involved.

If your wife insists that you should leave your mother for her (for no good enough reason), ask her what if her bhabhi does the same to her mother.

Lately, have seen a fad amongst girls that they very much hate their in-laws, without any apparent reason.

So, I would just say if she doesn't respect your parents, she is not worth it. Do not hurt your parents or leave them to an old-age home because your wife was intolerant. They don't deserve this.

一个真正的女人不会让你在她和你妈妈之间做出选择。这是没啥好竞争的。

如果你的妻子坚持要你为她离开你的母亲(没有足够好的理由)，问她如果她的父亲对她的母亲做了同样的事怎么办。

最近，女孩中出现了一种风尚，她们没有任何特别原因就是讨厌自己的婆家。

所以，我只能说如果她不尊重你的父母，她就是不配的人。不要因为你的妻子不宽容就伤害你的父母或让他们去养老。他们不该被这样对待。

Ankita Kulkarni, A little older, A little wiser...

Hmm.. As an Indian woman, there are a few things I would like to suggest.

We notice the smallest things and we judge you over it.
While out in a restaurant, please be polite to the waiters and management.
Please make sure you are smelling good. A stinking mouth and a smelling body and you might not even get far to the dessert, if on a date.
An independent woman won't always expect you to pay. If she offers, let her. She isn't trying to belittle you. She just wants to be an equal partner.
A sensible woman won't judge you if you get senti or emotional. She will appreciate it.
We love it when you share your thoughts and dreams with us. If given a chance, we would help you achieve them.
Be a good conversationalist. And be a better listener.
A strong and independent woman won't ask you to pick her up even if she is working late. But please do so. She might not need it but trust me, she will tell her girlfriends about it with pride.
We love the occasional pampering.

嗯. .作为一名印度女性，我有几点建议。

1。我们会注意到最细微的事情，并给你打分。

2。外出就餐时，请礼貌对待服务员和管理人员。

3。请确保你身上没有异味。如果约会的话，你若有口臭和身上有臭味，女孩们都不愿等到吃甜点的时候就想拜拜了。

4。一个独立的女人不会总是指望你买单。如果她愿意，让她买单吧。她不是想贬低你。她只是想要平等。

5。一个明智的女人在你感觉不舒服或情绪化的时候，不会对你有看法。她会欣赏你。

6。我们喜欢你和我们分享想法和梦想。如果有机会，我们将帮助你实现这些目标。

7。做一个好的健谈者。更要做一个好的倾听者。

8。一个坚强独立的女人即使工作到很晚，也不会让你去接她。但请主动这样做。她可能并不需要，但相信我，她会自豪地告诉她的女朋友。

9。我们喜欢偶尔被宠爱的感觉。

Shriya Agrawal, The choice to have a great attitude is something that nobody or no circumstance can take from you.

" Don't ask/demand for respect, if you deserve it you will get it". Like the old saying goes, 'In order to get respect, you have to give respect.' So ask yourself this, are you giving out the respect that you want to receive?

Respect means you acknowledge the person, take them seriously, and are honest with them.

And this applies in both the cases for man and woman as well.

What I would say is,

Treat your girl how you would want your dad to treat your mom, your future brother-in-law to treat your sister, and your future son-in-law to treat your daughter.

That's it.

不要要求别人尊重你，如果你值得别人尊重，你自然会得到别人的尊重。就像那句老话说的，“为了得到尊重，你必须给予尊重。”

尊重意味着你承认对方，认真对待他们，对他们诚实。

这同样适用于男人和女人。

我想说的是，

你希望你的父亲怎样对待你的母亲，你未来的姐夫怎样对待你的妹妹，你未来的女婿怎样对待你的女儿，那就怎样对待你的女孩。

就是这样。

Prathana, Indian girl..

Every woman has a past. Some were physically abused. Some had violent parents. Some had pubertal issues. Some had sexual abuse as a child from their own family members. Some had messed up love stories. Some had been forced into sex in the name of love. Some had been drugged. Some were date raped. Some had been viciously photographed on bed. Some had been blackmailed by their ex-boyfriend. Some were in an abusive relationship. Some had menstrual problems. Some had a broken family. Some had a divorce. Some had an obesity issue. Some had financial droughts. Some had drug or alcohol addiction. Some had a few unsuccessful suicide attempts.

每个女人都有过去。一些人遭受过身体上的虐待。有些人的父母很暴力。有些人有青春期问题。有些人在童年时曾受到家人的性虐待。有些人的恋爱一直不顺遂。有些人被人以爱情的名义被迫进行性行为。有些人被下药。有些人约会时被强奸。一些人在床上被恶意拍照。一些人被前男友敲诈。有些人被虐待。有些人有月经问题。有些人家庭破裂。有些人离婚了。有些人存在肥胖问题。有些人遭遇了金融危机。有些人吸毒或酗酒。有些人多次自杀未遂。

If you see a woman, who went through any of these but had already wiped her tears, tied her hair up, masked her sorrows with a divine smile, stood tall and strong, started walking towards her future because she still has some hope left inside her and has not given up on the concept of love that still exsts in this world, do not stab her with her past. Do not confront her. Do not slap her with more abuse. Give way for her and walk beside her. May be hold her hands and walk for a while. You'll know how sweet that soul is and how strong her hopes are! You'll be amazed at how she carries herself after all her energy has been sucked out.

She need not always be only the woman next door or from a different home. She could be your own friend, your own sister, your own girlfriend, your own wife, even may be your own mother. Do not judge her by her past. Gift her the peaceful future that she deserves. Hold her hands against the world, which knows only to judge. Give her the love that she always yearned for!

如果你看到一个女人,经历过这些磨难，但是已经擦了擦眼泪,束起头发,用神圣的笑容掩盖了悲伤,昂首挺胸坚强地站起来,开始走向未来,因为她她体内仍有一些希望,没有放弃这世上仍存的爱，请不要用她的过去伤害她。不要当面质问她。也别再打击她了。给她留一条路，陪着她走。也可以牵着她的手走一会儿。你会知道那个灵魂是多么可爱，她的希望是多么强烈!你会惊奇地发现，当她所有的精力都耗尽之后，她是如何表现自己的。

她不一定就是住在隔壁或者来自不同家庭背景的女人。她可能是你自己的朋友，你自己的姐妹，你自己的女朋友，你自己的妻子，甚至可能是你自己的母亲。不要以她的过去来评价她。送她一个和平的未来，这是她应得的。握着她的手，与世界对抗，世界只知道如何去判断。给她她一直渴望的爱!

Kavya Sree, Keep Learning and Keep Writing :-)

If a girl talks to a boy that doesn't mean that she loves him.

Many of the them thinks like that and loves her and keep hopes on her it's not the mistake of girl it's the mistake of boys who thinks like that.

Many of them can't understand the difference between love n friendship once people start understanding the real difference then there will be no misunderstandings.

Guys change ur way of thinking and behaviour towards girls,girl is also a human being like u don't force ur feelings on her just respect her feelings towards u..

Every girl expect one thing form boys it's Respect.

Give Respect to girls their feelings and thoughts that's all she wants.

如果一个女孩和一个男孩说话，并不意味着她爱他。

他们中的很多人都是这样想的，爱她，对她抱有希望，这不是女孩的错，是男孩的错。

他们中的许多人不能理解爱情和友谊的区别，一旦人们开始理解真正的区别，那么就不会有误解。

伙计们，改变你对女人的想法和行为，女人也是人，不要把你的感受强加给她，而是尊重她对你的感情。

每个女孩都希望从男孩身上得到一样东西，那就是尊重。

尊重女孩的感情和思想，这就是她想要的一切。

Respect that's all we want.

我们想要的就是尊重而已。

Kritika Laddha

Do not urinate in public.

Ok, May be an urgent dilemma nags at your bladder and your consciences. But you can't let go in public.

不要在公共场合小便。

好吧，人有三急，困扰着你的膀胱和道德心。但你还是不能在公共场合这样做。

Juhi razac

Boys….beware of this…

When u are talking to your female colleagues/any ladies….please understand that our eyes are not over here

男孩们....要当心…

当你跟你的女同事/任何女性聊天时....你的眼睛不该看这里

but over here

而应该看这里

do u have any idea what we feel, when we see our male collegue making a peek into our chest while talking.

We loose our respect upon you

We feel disgusting about you Everytime..

I am not blaming every males out there,but there are wolves among the lambs..

当我们看到男同事在谈话时偷窥我们的胸部时，你知道我们的感受吗?

我们失去了对你的尊敬

我们每次都对你感到恶心。

我并不是在责怪所有的男人，但确实有那么些败类。

Anisha Pahwa, Seen and experienced gender discrimination and stereotypes

When on an outing let us split the bill. We respect that you are a gentleman and wish to pay the entire bill but at the same time we also understand that it is your hard earned money. It doesn't feel good to let the other person spend his hard earned money on us every time. We feel good when we also contribute. Equality

Edit- After reading comments on this answer I realized that many believe that girls/women are gold diggers and that this advice should be given to them. But this answer is intended to break the stereotype that girls/women expect their male counterpart to spend on them. Times are changing and more girls/women are independent and know the value of hard earned money.

外出时让我们AA付钱。我们尊重您是一位绅士，希望支付全部的账单，但同时我们也理解这是您辛苦挣来的钱。让别人每次把自己辛苦赚来的钱花在我们身上，感觉并都不好。当我们也有所付出时，感觉很好。这是平等。

编辑-在阅读了关于这个答案的评论后，我意识到许多人认为女孩/女人是拜金主义者，这个建议应该给他们。但这个答案是为了打破女孩/女人期望她们的男性伴侣在她们身上花钱的刻板印象。时代在变，越来越多的女孩/女人独立了，知道辛苦挣来的钱的价值。

Anonymous

" Do not marry us if you are Gay " falling under pressure from your family or society.

Dr Kamal Vedi Could you answer why did you marry her when you knew your sexual preferences ?

The recent mental and physical torture which provoked Dr Priya Vedi to commit suicide because his husband was Gay (mind you she had accepted her it was her greatness though).

“如果你是同性恋，就不要迫于家庭或社会压力娶我们”。

卡迈勒·维迪医生，你能回答为什么你在明知自己的性取向后还要娶她吗?

Priya Vedi医生因丈夫是同性恋，最近因精神和身体上遭受的双重折磨而自杀。