Anonymous

Going anonymous, because I choose to.

I am a 30 year old unmarried woman living in India. I had a recurring high fever since the past two weeks and decided to go to the doctor. We went to a lady doctor who was new to the locality. So after asking me a few question on my symptoms and checking my pulse and heart beat she took out her notepad to write down a few diagnostic tests as she suspected it was Typhoid. Then came the point where she asked me my name and age. She was taken by surprise when I told her I was 30. She said you look so young for 30. It did not end there. She asked me if I was married and looked quite surprised when I told her I wasn’t. This is what is wrong with the Indian society. The assumption that a girl should be married and have kids before 30.

匿名，因为我希望这么做。

我是一个30岁的未婚女性，住在印度。从过去两周开始我就反复发高烧，我决定去看医生。我们去看了一位新来的女医生。在询问了几个我的症状问题，检查了我的脉搏和心跳后，她拿出笔记本写下了一些诊断测试，因为她怀疑那是伤寒。然后她问了我的名字和年龄。当我告诉她我30岁时，她大吃一惊。她说你这个 年纪看起来那么年轻。但这并没有就此结束。她问我是否结婚了，当我告诉她我没有结婚时，她显得很惊讶。这就是印度社会的问题所在。女孩就应该在30岁之前结婚生子。

A little bit of personal history about me - I have dyslexa and stammer since the age of 2. Thought the stammer has vanished completely in my adulthood, the ghosts of the past- humiliations and difficulties faced loom over me- now this is completely individualistic and personal . People who meet me cannot believe this genetic condition of Mine ( yes stammering, is a genetic flaw to the left side of the brain having damaged cells while the baby is still inside the womb of the mother, just another evolutionary typo/ error ;) ) . They say you are perfect, normal, confident, mentally strong etc. But in my growing years the amount of humiliation and isolation I faced as a child and teenager (shudder) is so horrible that it still haunts me. Being attractive, I got and still get a lot of Male attention and it was more like I got a lot of unwanted attention Coz I was the pretty face, but sadly I stammered.

Now these things haunt me and I am reluctant to go the arranged marriage way Coz I felt it’s more of a business dealing in my community than a human touch to it. So I am just waiting for the right person.

我的一些个人经历——我从2岁开始就有阅读障碍和口吃。虽然成年后我的口吃已经完全消失了，但过去的阴影——羞辱和困难的阴影笼罩着我。遇到我的人都不敢相信我的基因(是的，口吃是大脑左侧的一个基因缺陷，当婴儿还在母亲的子宫里的时候，基因损坏了细胞，这是进化上的一个错误)。他们说你是完美的，正常的，自信的，心智上很坚强等等。但是在我的成长岁月里，年幼和少女时期所面对的羞辱和孤立(战栗)是如此可怕，至今仍萦绕在我心头。作为一个有吸引力的人，我得到过并且现在还得到很多男性的关注，但似乎我吸引了别人的不必要的关注是因为我有张漂亮的脸蛋，但却很遗憾，说话结结巴巴。

现在这些事情困扰着我，我不愿意走包办婚姻的道路，因为我觉得在我的社区里，这更多的是一种商业交易，没有人情味。所以我只想静静等待那个人的出现。

Now why should I go around explaining this to people ? The more you reveal and explain about urself to people it leads to more questions, more gossip, more intrusion into privacy and ridiculous senseless advices!

This is what is Wrong with the Indian society. We don’t know how to live and let live. “To each his own” doesn’t hold good to India.

为什么我要到处向人们解释这个呢?你越是向别人透露和解释自己，就会导致更多的问题，更多的流言蜚语，更多的侵犯隐私和荒谬的毫无意义的建议!

这就是印度社会的问题所在。我们不知道如何好好生活，也不知道如何让别人好好生活。“各自安好”对印度不适用。

Yashwant Kumar, Learning about India, since 1990

Playing Victim and misusing the rights given by the constitution.

扮演受害者的角色，滥用宪法赋予的权利。

Here is the story of a Mumbai woman who attacked the security guard and also stripped in front of police, after a heated argument with them.

Megha Sharma is a Mumbai based model, who lives in a flat in Andheri. Late in the night on 25th October 2018, she bugged the security guard of the apartment complex to bring her some smokes. Upon rejection by the guard, she came downstairs and started abusing the guard. Unable to control her anger, she physically attacked him.

She, later, called the police and informed them with a twisted story. She made a claim of being attacked by the guard. The police arrived and sensed something fishy. They asked her to come to the police station, to which she denied.

这是一名孟买妇女的故事，她袭击了保安，并在警察面前脱光衣服，与警察发生了激烈的争吵。

Megha Sharma是一位来自孟买的模特，住在Andheri的一套公寓里。2018年10月25日深夜，她让公寓大楼的保安人员给她带一些烟。被保安拒绝后，她下楼开始辱骂保安。由于无法控制自己的愤怒，她对保安进行了身体攻击。

后来，她打电话给警察，编造了故事。她声称受到保安的袭击。警察来了，感觉到有什么不对劲。他们请她去警察局，她拒绝了。

The police and the model had a heated argument. Unable to control her anger, she started abusing the police and even attacked an another guard of the apartment. She even stripped her clothes off, in front of the police, which was recorded. The recording went viral in no time.

Unable to control the woman, the police left the place, taking the security guard into their custody. Meanwhile, the model made a tweet and made claims of being physically assaulted by the police and guards.

警察和模特进行了激烈的争论。她无法控制自己的愤怒，开始辱骂警察，甚至还袭击了公寓的另一名保安。她甚至在警察面前脱光了衣服，还被录下了视频。这段视频迅速走红。

由于无法制服这名女子，警察离开了现场，将保安带走监护起来。与此同时，这位模特还在推特上发布消息，声称自己遭到了警察和保安的身体攻击。

The tweet gained huge attention from the twitter users. Without trying to know the authenticity of the tweet, many users on the Social Media platform came to her support. The police faced the heat.

After 2 days, the CCTV footage of the apartment was released by the police, in which the woman attacked the security guard first, contrary to what she claimed earlier.

Now, she started blaming the Mumbai police, accusing them for not releasing the full video.

The security guard didn’t mishandle her. However, the Mumbai Police made a mistake by trying to take her to the Police Station, without being accompanied by the Women police. But, the act of Megha Sharma is not at all agreeable. She made false accusations on the security guards, abused and physically attacked them, used abusive language on the Police, and stripped her clothes off, blaming the police for her act.

这条微博引起了twitter用户的极大关注。在不知道推特真实性的情况下，社交媒体平台上的许多用户都支持她。警察承受了很大的压力。

两天后，警方公布了该公寓的闭路电视录像。在录像中，这名女子首先袭击了保安，与她之前所说的完全相反。

现在，她开始指责孟买警方，指责他们没有公布完整的视频。

保安人员没有欺负她。然而，孟买警方犯了一个错误，在没有女警察陪同的情况下，试图把她带到警察局。但是，Megha Sharma的行为一点也不讨人喜欢。她对保安人员进行了虚假指控，对他们进行了虐待和人身攻击，对警察使用了侮辱性语言，还脱光自己的衣服，指责是警察动的手。

This incident reminds me the infamous Jasleen Kaur incident, who made false accusations and spoil the life of an innocent person.

The Constitution of India had provided us with the fundamental right. Women and some deprived sections have some additional rights, to lift them from their position. Not everytime these rights are being used in a right way, sometimes these rights have been misused.

It’s time to review such constitutional acts.

这件事让我想起了臭名昭著的杰斯里恩·考尔事件，他诬告别人，还毁了一个无辜的人的生活。

印度宪法为我们提供了基本权利。妇女和一些被剥夺权利的人群有一些额外的权利，以帮她们摆脱自己的劣势地位。但这些权利并不是都被正确地使用了，有时这些权利被人们滥用。

是时候重新审视这些宪法法案了。

Divya Barathi, lives in India

Recently I had travelled to my neighbouring state to attend a friend’s wedding. While returning, I was waiting at the railway station along with my friend as our train got delayed.

An elderly man, with sophisticated looks introduced himself and striked a conversation with us.

He was a well educated person who was very fluent in many Indian languages. He asked us where we are from and spoke to us in our respective languages.

He then started bragging about his daughter,grandchildren etc and how open minded his family is when it comes to so many things.

Then out of nowhere, the conversation took an unexpected turn;

最近，我到邻国去参加一个朋友的婚礼。回来的时候，我和朋友在火车站等车，因为火车晚点了。

一个上了年纪的男人，外貌很老成世故，介绍了他自己，并和我们进行了交谈。

他受过良好的教育，精通多种印度语言。他问我们从哪里来，用我们各自的语言和我们交谈。

然后他开始吹嘘他的女儿，孙子等等，以及遇到许多事情时，他的家庭是多么开明。

然后不知从何时开始，我们的谈话发生了神转折;

He suddenly listed all the possible castes exsting in my state and asked me which one of those do I belong to!

I was so perplexed that I didn't know how to answer that!

I live in a circle that even though has underlying caste issues, would never openly ask someone their caste, leave alone someone you’ve just met!

This person who was just bragging about his open mindedness and the education level of his family didn’t even consider for a minute how inappropriate it is to ask someone’s caste.

What was more baffling was that he used to work for the UN!

I don't know how many more years will it take before these people finally realise the absurdity behind their obsession with castes!

他突然列出了我所在邦的所有可能的种姓，问我属于哪个种姓!

我很困惑，不知道如何回答这个问题!

我生活在一个圈子里，即使有潜在的种姓问题，我也绝不会公开问别人的种姓，更别提你刚刚认识的人了!

这个人才刚刚吹嘘过他开放的思想和家庭的教育水平，可他根本没有考虑过询问别人的种姓有多不妥。

更令人困惑的是他曾经为联合国工作过!

我不知道还需要多少年，这些人才能最终意识到他们对种姓的痴迷有多荒谬!