Sreekanth Reddy Balne, Co-Founder and CTO at Doclet

14th September 2018,

“Telangana Honour killing”

2018年9月14日,

特伦甘纳“荣誉谋杀”

This is the term used in most newspapers and online media. A Dalit has been murdered by his rich father-in-law. A huge fuss was created by both media and politicians to their own benefits. Even the government came forward to offer amount, a house and a government job to the widowed. Politicians from various parties promised around 1 crore rupees. The worst part is she is demanding a statue of her deceased husband be placed at the city center as a symbol of love. There are few well-received answers on Quora too, where everyone is speaking in support of the girl. Why?

I pity these people. Did you discuss this issue with your parents? Try to think from the perspective of both sides. Every father wishes his child to be in an even better position.

这是大多数报纸和网络媒体使用的术语。一个达利特被他富有的岳父谋杀了。媒体和政客们为了自己的利益制造了一场大骚动。甚至连政府也主动提出给丧偶的寡妇提供一所房子和一份政府工作。来自不同党派的政客承诺将支付大约1亿卢比。最糟糕的是，她要求在市中心竖立她已故丈夫的雕像，作为爱的象征。在Quora上也没有得到好评的答案，每个人都在支持这个女孩。为什么?

我同情这些人。你和你父母讨论过这个问题吗?试着从双方的角度来思考。每个父亲都希望他的孩子过得更好。

“Yes. I got him murdered because, for me, my reputation and caste are more important than anyone and anything in this world.”

by Maruthi Rao might have been made in the heat of the situation. Nothing is of chief importance for a father than his child. This statement and the tag “Dalit” is enough to trigger huge rage in people, especially youth.

Amrutha, the only child of Maruthi Rao, comes from a well-reputed family. Pranay is a Dalit, which I presume poor. They are in love and like every parent her father opposed the same for the past 6 years. Why? 9th standard love is a spoiler. They were doomed. Think of a situation where your child did the same thing and the society stares at you as a culprit for not raising a child properly? Tolerating that for the past 6 years is what makes me respect him.

“是的。我杀了他，因为对我来说，我的名誉和地位比世界上任何人和任何事都重要。”马鲁提·拉奥说了这句话，他可能是在这种情况下做出的决定。对父亲来说，没有什么比他的孩子更重要。这种说法和“达利特”的标签足以在人们，尤其是年轻人中引发巨大的愤怒。

阿姆鲁塔是马鲁提·拉奥唯一的孩子，来自一个名声很好的家庭。普拉纳是达利特人，我猜他很穷。他们恋爱了，就像所有的父母一样，她的父亲在过去的6年里一直反对他们。为什么?他们注定要失败的。想想看:如果你的孩子做了同样的事情，而社会却把你看成是没有正确抚养孩子的罪魁祸首?在过去的6年里，我对他的容忍心生敬佩。

Does Pranay hold a Job? What is his source of income? Will he be able to raise a child? Pranay discontinued his studies with around 20 backlogs. What do you think the reason is? For a father marrying away his daughter to a person with an insecure life is unbearable. And living in the same city, posting pics and videos? Provocative. And impregnating her while she was supposed to be completing her degree 2nd year? Really? Aggravating already tense relations with her father. All hopes of a father were shattered by his only daughter.

By supporting Amrutha, are you advising youngsters to walk in the golden path laid by Amrutha? She is just an immature girl. And why do you think there is a need to provide any money, house and a job to this dumb ass? Did she do any service to our country? I came across many stories where a disabled soldier from Kargil War has not received any incentives from the government. Neither are the farmers who commit suicide every year.

普拉纳有工作吗?他的收入来源是什么?他能抚养一个孩子吗?普拉纳结束了他的学业。一个父亲是无法忍受把女儿嫁给一个生活不稳定的人。住在同一个城市，上传照片和视频?这就是挑衅。让他女儿在本该在第二年就完成学位的时候怀孕?真的吗?这加剧了她和她父亲已经紧张的关系。父亲的一切希望都被他唯一的女儿破灭了。

你支持阿姆鲁塔，是想告诉年轻人可以走阿姆鲁塔铺好的黄金大道吗?她只是个不成熟的女孩。为什么你认为有必要为这个蠢蛋提供金钱，房子和工作?她为我们国家做过什么贡献吗?我遇到过很多这样的故事，卡吉尔战争的残疾士兵没能从政府那里得到任何补助。每年自杀的农民也不例外。

I am not supporting the murder though. No one has a right to kill anyone. I feel sorry for the guy. But please have the decency to respect your parents. It’s not America. What a neighbor thinks matters at least to our parents. We should respect that. If you are in love with a girl of some higher class, don’t expect yourself to be accepted by her parents instantly. Try to achieve something in life. Get a degree, a job with a decent salary. Motivate the other person to do the same and wait till you achieve a proper position where you are sure enough to deal with the post-marriage stuff. To these people, caste doesn’t matter if you are a well settled with a job and having a promising life.

但我不支持谋杀。所有人都无权杀死任何人。我为那家伙感到难过。但请尊重你的父母。这不是美国。邻居的闲言碎语对我们的父母很重要。我们应该尊重这一点。如果你爱上了某个高种姓的女孩，不要指望你能立刻被她的父母所接受。试着在生活中有所建树。获得一个学位，一份薪水不错的工作。鼓励对方也这么做，直到你获得合适的地位，你确信自己能处理好婚后的事情。对这些人来说，如果有一份稳定的工作，过着有前途的生活，种姓就不重要了。

Kaushal Sen, Student Partner at Internshala Student Partner (2018-present)

Indian Society is worst at judging the girls.

Girl:- I love wearing MODERN outfits.

• Society:- She wants to provoke boys.
• Reality:- She feels more comfortable in them.

Girl:- I love hanging out with friends.

• Society:- Ladki hath se nikal gyi( The girl is no longer in control.)
• Reality:- She’s gregarious and loves going out.

印度社会最糟糕的就是对女孩评头论足。

女孩:-我喜欢穿现代服装。

• 社会:她想勾引男孩。
• 事实:她感觉更舒适。

女孩:-我喜欢和朋友出去玩。

• 社会:女孩不再受控制了。
• 事实:她很合群,喜欢外出。

Girl:- Whenever I party I BOOZE.

• Society:- She’s a girl with low morals.
• Reality:- She’s fond of drinking at the parties.

Girl:- I am not a virgin.

• Society:- She is characterless.
• Reality:- She had a relationship where she trusted her partner.

女孩:-我每次聚会都喝酒。

• 社会:她品行不佳。
• 事实:她喜欢喝酒聚会。

女孩:-我不是处女。

• 社会:她很没有羞耻心。
• 事实:她谈恋爱了，她信任她的男友。

Girl:- I mostly wear a smile, when I speak.

• Society:- She is interested in building a relationship.
• Reality:- She has a charming personality.

Girl:- I touch, pat & hug my MALE friends.

• Society:- She wants to have sex or she is interested in them.
• Reality:- She trusts them and feels comfortable with them.

Girl:- I work in NIGHT shifts.

• Society:- She must be in something immoral.
• Reality:- Her works demands so.

女孩:-我说话的时候总是带着微笑。

• 社会:她想要找人谈恋爱。
• 事实:她的个性很有魅力。

女孩:-我抚摸，轻拍，拥抱我的男性朋友。

• 社会:她想做爱或对他们感兴趣。
• 事实:她信任他们,跟他们在一起感觉很舒服。

女孩:-我上夜班。

• 社会:她肯定品行不佳。
• 事实:她的工作要求她如此。

Girls, womens or simply saying females need to be respected by the society and should be supported rather than demotivating them.

女孩、女性或简单地说女性需要得到社会的尊重，应该得到支持而不是打击她们。