Why in India girls are unable to find matrimonial match/groom after they reach certain age

为什么印度女孩到了一定年龄就找不到结婚对象？

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Alok Menon, Engineer at Tata Consultancy Services (2012-present)

Because we are on the cusp of cultural change

Most women nowwa days default to arranged marriage after 27 after failed attempts at relationships. 90 % are already physically and emotionally involved . Except for 5% who had to delay it because of higher education only.

1)Hence they become picky .everyone deserves to be picky but they are more picky than a 24 year old.They want the exact replica of thier bf. Which becomes difficult .

2) after recovery from thier breakup. They do not want to depend on anyone and come of as cold and harsh , which pushes of more men.

3) they become more uncompromising because they have lost their true love .. now it's just financial support and babies.

4) They 're already rebels and no one can ask them to compromise including parents, so they also give up hope.

5) They totally disregard the world and start hanging out with women 6 years younger than them to not feel left out . Till they get married too.

6)Some of them are very stubborn. Most women after a bad breakup who are willing to adjust get married by 28 and move on.

This goes on under the garb of career for some time . Till they find someone and settle for the sake of settling . They do make good wives though .

因为我们正处于文化变革的风口浪尖上。

如今，大多数27岁以上的印度女性在恋爱失败后，都会接受包办婚姻，90%都这样。另有5%因为上大学而不得不晚婚。

• 因此她们变得挑剔。虽然每个人都有挑选的权利，但她们比24岁的女孩还更挑剔。她们想要前男友标准 的结婚对象，这就难了。
• 从分手中恢复后，她们不愿依赖任何人，变得冷漠和苛刻，拒人于千里之外。
• 她们变得更加不妥协，因为她们已经失去了真爱，现在只是为了经济支持和孩子而结婚。
• 她们已经是叛逆者了，没有人能要求她们妥协，包括父母。
• 她们完全无视这个世界，开始和比自己小6岁的女孩出去玩，不觉得自己会被忽视。直到这些女孩也结婚了。
• 有些女孩很固执。在经历了一次糟糕的分手后愿意做出调整的女性，大多数都能在28岁之前结婚，然后继续生活。

有些为了事业而晚婚，直到找到另一半，为了安定下来而结婚，但她们确实能成为好妻子。

Praveen Suresh, Electronic Engineer

Because she is 33 , over aged ( for marriage), she cannot marry a man in his 20’s , that s why.

also if she stills interested in young men, please come out of matrimonial site and find a young boy from TOWN/street/your area. but her choices are limited.

ask to her.

is she willing to marry a man in his early 50 ‘s ?

is she willing to marry a ugly one (a young one)?

is she willing to marry a job less man(below 35 years old) ?

is she willing to marry from other casts?

is she willing to marry a bald one?

is she only interested in “never married man”

if Her answer is Big NO.

Then very difficult to find one. otherwise its not difficult(only if she is pretty)

nowadays girls expectations are very high. even a 10th pass ugly girl needs M.tech/MD graduates/good looking/young/own house/well settled/government job/US job

-a unmarried man with 2 years experience in various matrimonial site. but every girls rejected Me

Edit: girls, please cool….not get angry(i got many messages from girls and they argued with me. dont do that. i dont have time to argue with you. iam busy to search for my soulmate. bharath matrimony ID-R2679057 open to all castes. lol

译文来源：三泰虎 http://www.santaihu.com/46911.html 译者：Jessica.Wu

可能她已经33岁了，过了最佳结婚年龄，嫁不了20多岁的男人，这就是原因所在。

如果她仍然对年轻男性感兴趣，请远离婚介网站，去找一个本地的年轻男孩试试。但她的选择是有限的。

还可以问问她：

愿意嫁给一个五十出头的男人吗?

愿意嫁给一个长得丑的年轻人吗?

愿意嫁给一个没工作的男人(35岁以下)吗?

愿意和低种姓结婚吗?

愿意嫁给一个秃顶男人吗?

只对“未婚男人”感兴趣吗?

如果她的答案都是否定的，那就很难找了。如果她长得够漂亮，那就另当别论了。

现在女孩的要求都很高，就连高中毕业长相丑陋的女孩都要求对方是博士生，有房，有稳定的工作或是公务员或在美国工作，而且要年轻，长相英俊。

我是一个未婚男子，在各婚介网站混迹了2年，每个女孩都拒绝了我

女孩们，请冷静，不要对我的回答感到生气(我收到很多女孩的信息，她们和我争论。请你们不要这样做，我没有时间和你争论。我正忙着寻找我的灵魂伴侣，任何种姓都行，哈哈。

Jammy Sharma

I have seen this happening before many times, i cannot say that iam an expert in these situations. But I will try to give best of my advice as per my knowledge.

这种情况我见多了，虽然我不是这方面的专家，但是我会尽力给出最好的建议。

In india arranged marriage has earned a bad reputation. Its only because unlike our parents we(both men and women) today have got many choices. So we wait and try to choose the best. For eg: your sister, iam pretty sure your sister might have refused many proposals and so have many guys refused her. But the sad thing is in india with growing age women are always are the loosing end. A 40 year old guy may find a 30 year women. But in arranged marriage in india its difficult for a 35 year old women to get a 30 year old guy. Plus unlike guys the biological clock starts hitting women at 35. Marriage without children is usually a unhappy marriage. Secondly dealing with pregnancy is very difficult after 35, miscarriages are so common. Not to scare you but its a fact. Plus raising kids is very difficult they take a lot of your energy, difficult to keep up with them.

在印度，包办婚姻声名狼藉。因为我们已经不像父母辈那样，如今的我们有很多选择(男性和女性都有)，所以我们都会等遇到最合适的再结婚。但可悲的是，在印度，随着年龄的增长，女性总是吃亏的一方。一个40岁的男人可能能找到一个30岁的女人。但是在印度的包办婚姻中，35岁的女人很难找到30岁的男人。而且和男人不同的是，女人在35岁时就开始受到生理影响，35岁以后怀孕就比较困难，流产也很常见。没有孩子的婚姻通常是不幸福。这不是吓唬你，而是事实。此外，抚养孩子是非常难的，需要投入很多精力。

Now understand this even a 35 year old well settled guy probably wont say yess to 33 old he wants someone from 28 to 30. One possibility is if your sister knows someone close to her who understands her and likes her. Find someone who is around 37 to 39 who is well settled. Understand this your sister age is very critical if she doesn't marry before 35 she will probably remain single until and unless some prince charming comes to her rescue which usually happens in movies. Speak to your parents and take a decision asap.

现在明白了吧，即使是一个35岁，生活安定的男子可能也不会找一个33岁的女性，他想要的是一个28岁到30岁的。如果在35岁之前不结婚，这个女子可能会一直单身，除非有白马王子来救她，这在电影里是常有的事。你可以和你的父母谈谈，尽快做出决定。

Lokanath Reddy, Paediatrician, married 2 months ago..

As a doctor i will say medical causes first.

1.Increased maternal age (more than 30) are more associated with congenital defects and downs syndrome.

2.Fertility rates may come down with increased age.

These are just associations and every body won't get all these problems but chances will be higher than with women of less than 30 years.

Social and psychological causes:

1.Many guyz will get married by 30 even today due to parents or by themselves. Once they are settled no body will wait longer for a partner.

2.They think of medical problems with increased maternal age.

3.Guys think to marry a girl with less age atleast 2 to 4 years. Cause may be regarding beauty or ego or other causes.

4.Parents think of age a lot in Indian scenario. The late you are the more they think like why it is so late, what is the problem?? That's indian mentality.

These are not my views but my observations.

Any way there is nothing to panic. Your sister will get a good match. Please atleast you see the nature of the guy and not the income…..

作为一名医生，我首先要说的是医学方面的原因。

1.母亲年龄的增加(30岁以上)更容易导致先天缺陷和唐氏综合症。

2.随着年龄的增长，生育率可能会下降。

虽然这些只是有关联，并不是每个人都会有这些问题，但是30岁以上的女性出现以上问题的机率比30岁以下的女性高。

社会和心理原因:

1. 如今很多男性都在30岁之前就结婚了，出于父母的要求或自己的选择。
2. 他们考虑到了高龄产妇会导致的医学问题。
3. 男人一般想娶一个比自己小至少2 - 4岁的女孩。、
4. 在印度，家长很看重年龄。结婚年龄越大。他们越觉得其中有什么问题。这是印度人的心态。

以上不是我的观点，而是我的观察。

无论如何，没有什么好慌的。你会找到一个好伴侣的，但是你至少应该看清他的本性，而不是他的收入……

Anonymous

The Indian society and one's own preference is to blamed here. From generations marriages have been arranged and a matrimonial match is generally based on the income of the groom and/or the beauty of the bride. Any other quality or personality traits are not even remotely considered.

Even the couple concerned in arranged marriage don't usually look beyond that. But they are not to be blamed either, how can they judge a person whom they have met once or twice.

Thus arranged marriages are usually inclined in the favour of the groom. If he is even average looking guy, but earns well or belongs to high class family, he will get a decent looking young girl. Why? Because the bride's family and in some cases even the bride herself will only see the income and status of groom.

Please don't judge me on that statement, but I rarely see a rich man getting rejected in a matrimonial match.

This is the irony, women above 30 are usually considered beyond the marriageable age and thus don't find good grooms.

Maybe we need to change the definition of good grooms and brides and switch to good man and good woman. I think?

这要归咎于印度社会和个人偏好。几代人的婚姻都是包办的，婚姻的匹配通常是基于新郎的收入和新娘的美貌。其他的品质或个性特征都根本不被考虑。

基于包办婚姻的夫妻，除了相貌和收入，通常也看不到别的。但是他们也不应该被指责，他们怎么能判断一个只见过一两次的人。

因此，包办婚姻通常对新郎有利。如果他相貌平平，但收入不错或出身于上流社会，他能找到一个漂亮的年轻女孩。为什么?因为新娘的家庭，甚至新娘自己也只看新郎的收入和地位。我很少看有钱人在相亲时被拒绝。

具有讽刺意味的是，30岁以上的女性通常被认为超过了适婚年龄，因此找不到合适的对象。

也许我们需要转变观念，应该看人好不好，而不是看年龄。。

Aman Malik, lived in India

If you divide Marriages in age groups, you will find-

- Major % of Marriages around the World is in the age group of 20's (Early or Late)

- In 30's the % is lesser and in 40's even lesser.....

From scientific point of view, to raise Family (Children's) there is a Standard (Fit) age, post that its difficult and leads to complications, its only logical people prefer that Age.

Hence 20's (Early or Late) is the Perfect Age for Marriage (Not just in India but Around the World) and beyond that, Person (Male or Female) has to find a companion in his/her own age group.

如果按年龄对婚姻进行分组，你会发现-

-大多数人都在20岁-30岁之间结婚

- 30岁-40岁结婚的比例更低，40岁-50岁结婚的比例更低…

从科学的角度来看，有一个最佳生育年龄，过了这个年龄，生育比较困难而且会导致并发症，因此人们选择在这个年龄结婚也是合逻辑的。

因此，20-30岁是结婚的最佳年龄(不仅在印度，在世界各地都是如此)，除此之外，男性或女性一般都会找年龄相仿的伴侣。

John Smith

This is because ( According to Indian standards )

She must have a flaw that is why she has not been married till yet.

She is at an age where the threat to her life and child’s life (child bearing issues) is more due to her age ( This one is actually medically proven ).

She could have had secret lovers.

She must have medical issues.

Her family must be controlling her too much.

Lot of other variables including nosey and jealous neighbors, rejects and relatives too.

BUT

In the end you will find a suitable suitor because it is only after night the sun shines.

这是因为(按照印度标准)：

她一定有什么问题，导致她至今未结婚。

生育问题，年龄大了，生孩子的话，容易一尸两命。

她可能有秘密情人。

她一定有健康问题。

她的家人一定管得太严了。

还有很多其他因素，包括爱管闲事和嫉妒的邻居、亲戚等等。

但是，最终她会找到一个合适的追求者，因为好事多磨，总归能守得云开见月明。

Bharat

Actually indian girls too much worries about man income they don't want to work hard they want extreme comfort life with no work load after Marriage, they always interested in people who have high income, here no value for human they value money , India mostly no true love .. here all works behind money and wealth..indian girls just Interested in man wealth and salary package, they want a good money only…

其实印度女孩太看重男方的收入了，她们自己不想努力工作，想婚后坐在家里享福。她们总是对高收入的人感兴趣，不看人，只看钱，大部分都不是真爱。一切都是金钱和财富在作祟。印度女孩只对男人的财富和薪水感兴趣，她们只想嫁个有钱人……

Radhika Awasthi

Because India is one of those countries that focus on societal views too much. At one point a girl is simply too old to get married in India. It is deemed as inappropriate. Most girls marry in their 20s in India. Basically you get too old to get married at one point. Everyone wants young and new girls. No one wants old girls.

因为印度是过于关注社会观点的国家。在印度，一个女孩因为年龄太大而找不到结婚对象，会被认为是不合适的。在印度，大多数女孩20多岁就结婚了。每个人都想找年轻的女孩，没人想要老闺女。

Vinay Patidar, Indian

In india almost everybody get marry in their mid 20s. So basically it's not your sister's fault but lack of single guys out there of same age as her.

Hope it clears your doubt.

在印度，几乎大家都在25岁左右结婚。所以基本上这不是你的错，而是缺少同龄的单身男人。

Amit Rahul, I am a married person having a child

Standard age for marriage in India has considered for girls 22–30 yrs & 25–35 yrs. A gap of 3–5 years between partners is considered as better option. Again it is considered that up to age of 32 years ,a girl can become become mother without any complexon. In addition of above 3 points, aging will effect negatively on Girl’s charm & physique.

印度的标准结婚年龄是22-30岁和25-35岁。伴侣之间3-5年的年龄差是最好的选择。还有32岁之前结婚，不会错过最佳生育年龄。除此之外，年龄的增长还会对女孩的魅力和体型产生负面影响。

外文：https://www.quora.com/Why-in-India-girls-are-unable-to-find-matrimonial-match-groom-after-they-reach-certain-age